凯西妈妈有话要说。

凯茜妈妈不久前在老同事费伊的朋友圈中看到了费伊的女儿，读了一位美国小学三年级学生的主题演讲稿(附有演讲全文)，吓了一跳。

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想起几年前我们在国内一次聚会的场景，FAY的女儿热爱书本，手不释卷，大人们吃完饭聊天，FAY的女儿就坐在那里安静地看书。FAY很兴奋地告诉我们她的女儿在附近的社区图书馆的阅读量长期高居榜首！其实不需要问为什么会是这个结果，我们都太了解FAY了，她就是个很牛气的学霸啊！从我们认识FAY以来，一直的印象就是FAY总好像有用不完的力气，永远都是元气满满的感觉。当时在国内外企繁重的工作量、考注册会计师、考注册税务师、赶报告、读MBA；以及赴美结婚、生子、考美国注册会计师、考法学院、考取美国律师执照资格、忙着为人母为人妻、忙着一个一个地递案子。此处需要介绍一下，FAY现在长居美国从事律师工作。

这样的原生家庭给到孩子的力量和成长动力必然会是有这样令人骄傲的孩子啊！FAY告诉Cathy妈妈她的女儿平时很少看电视，偶而看也是儿童电视剧，从来没有一边看电视一边吃饭的习惯，家里的电视很少开，只是偶而周末全家一起看个电影。FAY的女儿没有任何电子产品，家里的电脑、IPAD、IPHONE都是归爸爸妈妈所有，女儿任何时候要使用都要事先得到允许（家里的物权概念非常清晰），而女儿也只是偶而使用这些电子产品查看资料、做作业、或去教育网站。FAY的女儿在当地一所非常有名的私立学校读书，从幼儿园起，学校的老师们和校长就再三提醒家长要尽可能延迟孩子对电子产品的接触，要警惕电子产品对现代儿童的影响。FAY女儿对读书的热爱，亦很大程度归功于远离电子产品。相对于枯燥的印刷纸张，电影电视所提供的信息量更加丰富及直接，因此，基于人天生的惰性，若习惯了电影电视所提供的信息，孩子就会慢慢地排斥书本，而远离了书本，孩子就会失去书本所能带来的丰富的想象力、阅读时的安宁、及丰富内心所产生的自信。FAY注意到很多华人家庭对孩子的电子产品缺乏约束（觉得别的孩子都有我家孩子也应该有），在餐馆时经常可以看到大人吃饭小孩子抱着IPAD的情形，这样会导致孩子慢慢地沉浸于电子世界中，缺乏现实中与他人的交流。而美国本地家庭相对约束会更多一些，比如吃饭时全家人都不许看电子产品（包括父母及长辈），而是要一家人在一起交流、分享。家里的这些规矩，除了对孩子约束外，大人也要以身做则，这些规矩才能切实地执行。

FAY女儿的消费观“买自己需要的，而不是自己想要的”，这是FAY全家长期灌输的结果，因此，FAY女儿对别的小朋友拥有的东西只会欣赏而不会过多地羡慕。FAY教育女儿的重点是：学习自律，及承担自己行为的任何后果，因此，FAY女儿会自信、有责任感、知道什么是她想要的什么是她不想要的。因为只有一个女儿，FAY一直在提醒自己不要溺爱孩子；因为是第一代移民没有其他亲人在美国，FAY一直提醒自己要给孩子留下足够的让她在这个社会立足的能力，所以，FAY一直对孩子的要求比较严格（有一点“虎妈”），FAY相信母亲的作用就是在适当的时候给孩子一点push，让孩子有正确的人生观价值观比任何物质都重要。每一个父母都是爱自己的孩子，如何教育孩子如何使得自己的爱不会成为孩子成长过程中的羁绊，是每一个父母所面临的恒久不变的课题。作为一名商业移民律师，FAY看到很多非常成功的父母在孩子教育方面犯下在非常低级非常愚蠢的错误，看到一个聪明可爱的孩子因为父母及长辈的溺爱而变成了个“熊孩子”或错失机遇，所以FAY经常在警醒自己，也希望每一个做父母的都能够经常检视自己，莫让自己晚年时后悔。

在家门前卖柠檬

“做事总会考虑别人，不委屈自己，不麻烦别人”，这是她们一家所信奉的社交规则。而对生活的态度，则是认真过好每一天，做自己喜欢的事情。也正是因为这样，FAY的女儿小小年纪就关注环保，愿意并感召身边的人从小事做起，努力去做每一个微小的改变，进而去改变这个世界。

以下为FAY的微信分享内容以及FAY的女儿的英文演讲稿全文，朋友们一气呵成读起来必然有Cathy妈妈同样的震撼、感动！！！

女儿的第一次正式演讲

女儿学校每个三年级的小孩子都有一次演讲，女儿的排在了学年末，主题是关于环保。女儿用了两天时间就洋洋洒洒写了近十页，一试讲九分钟，是学校要求时间的双倍。经我再三建议总算精简了一半。

在学校的礼堂里，面对近二百人，女儿竟然丝毫没有紧张，侃侃而谈。从今天的天气说起，谈到环境，谈到罗斯福总统设立的美国国家公园体系，谈到该体系的促成者自然学家John Muir，并引用了一段John Muir的话。然后是讨论工业化使得人民逐渐丧失了对大自然的欣赏，以及要改变对环保破坏的现状需要大仁大爱勇气和坚持，并倡议大家参与。随后，她提到作为儿童并不意味着对于环保无所作为，而是从捡起身边的垃圾及监督身边的人做起。同时，她倡议同学们要恪守身为Foothill学生所应遵循的价值观和理念，从身边做起，并用卫生间的情况举例。她指出人类产生的污染已经导致了许多动物灭绝，并写了一首名为“大地母亲”的诗来表达大自然对人类行为的悲哀，号召大家去改变。最后，她提议大家今天做一件事：把所有看到的垃圾捡起来，并慷慨激扬地以“我们能够改变，让我们一起来证明，谢谢大家！”作为结束语。

以上内容仅为粗略翻译。所有内容全部出于女儿之手。整个过程，我除了震撼就是震撼，九岁的孩子，绝对地“青出于蓝而胜于蓝”！要知道，我不擅于公开场合讲话，而且写这样的稿件应该至少是上大学后了。事后，老师评价她“不单单是用头脑在讲也是用心在讲”，“非常有总统演讲的风格”。

在家后院的游泳池里

得女如此夫复何求！觉得自己要被幸福淹没了... ... 我的人生好像受到了上苍特别的眷顾，无论过去发生过什么，一切都化作了今日的感恩。每天看着女儿成长，每天早晨拉着老公的手一起走路，每天快乐地工作着，人生已近乎无憾了！

应要求女儿演讲的全文，其中只是用iPad查了半小时的名人关于环保的名言，约半小时抄下来，其余部分都是她独立写的。九岁的孩子可以独立写出这样的文章，并声情并茂地演讲出来，绝对地出乎意料，让身为妈妈的我，也充满了骄傲！

迪斯尼游轮合影

Isn’t it a cloudy and foggy morning outside? （女儿提前准备了晴天、下雨及阴天）What if it is like this all the time, and the air smelled like smoke, what if seeing blue skies and catching a glimpse of the sun was a rare treat? Would you like that? Believe it or not, there are some places in China where every day is like that. People are working hard to save their air, but here in America, we can avoid that. We decided to take the first step to a MOSTLY clean country when President Theodore Roosevelt created out country’s national parks.

In 1903, Roosevelt went on a camping trip with naturalist John Muir in a place Muir thought was the loveliest place on Earth – Yosemite! Muir was the one who convinced Roosevelt to start the chain of national parks.

I found some quotes that I really like. They motivated me to do my part in helping the world BE clean and STAY clean. I hope they will do the same for you, and always remember: you don’t have to be big or famous to make a difference.

“Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul.” – John Muir. I think he means that everybody needs beauty in their lives, a place where they can be themselves.

Henry David Thoreau, an author and naturalist, once said, if a man walks in the woods for love of them half of each day, he is in danger of being regarded a loafer. But if he spends his days as a speculator, shearing off those woods and making the earth bald before her time, he is deemed an industrious and enterprising citizen. Thoreau disagreed with that. He thought if a man wonders the woods, it means he appreciates the wonder around him; if he destroys those woods, it means he cares nothing for beauty and only has his sights set on making money.

An actress named Ellen DeGenerous also shared her feelings. She said, if we’re destroying our trees and destroying our environment and hurting our animals and hurting one another and all that stuff, there’s got to be a very powerful energy to fight that. I think we need more love in the world. We need more kindness, more compassion, more joy, more laughter. I definitely want to contribute to that.

We’re destroying ourselves by destroying the environment. We need the nature around us to live. We need to reach down inside us and find that energy to fight those people who dream of a totally industrious world. You would do that, wouldn’t you?

As children, we often don’t think that we can do anything. You can think that, but if you say “I can’t do anything” and then throw stuff on the ground, that’s not right. Besides, you can do something. You can pick up litter on the ground, even if it’s not yours. If you see someone throw trash, tell them that they’re littering. Don’t just stand there and gawk!

We, as Foothill students, are a part of community that is dedicated to helping. We have a reputation for being clean, but we’re not living up to that reputation. Take the girls bathroom by the gym for instance, it’s been more than a few times that I’ve seen Cheese-its crumbled on the ground.

We, humans are polluting everywhere. If not for some people fighting pollution, no animals would exist. In fact, many of our animal friends have gone forever. I wrote a poem called “Mother Earth”, I would like to share with you.

Elephants, Zebras / Big and Small / Mother Earth /Made us all.

We, the smartest / must follow her will

We, the strongest / must try NOT to kill.

She is looking down upon us / A frown, she’s sad

Help her Now / Don’t make her mad.

She must wait and wait / For us to change

Reward her Now / Let her rate, who we really are.

I would like to give each of you a challenge today: pick up every single piece of trash you see, even if it’s not yours. We, children, can make a difference, and LET’S PROVE IT. Thank you!